As Mother’s Day approaches I sit and reflect about my dear mother or “Mumsie” as I like to call her. My mum means many things to me and I know to many others as well. She is immediately likeable. She is friendly, caring, a wonderful listener — you know the type who really listens and doesn’t just listen so they can speak? She is empathetic, she is wise and so silly. One thing she is NOT is boring. She will sit and laugh at herself in hysterics for quite some time, so much so that it is contagious.

I have…


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Today as I sat on my balcony looking out to the trees, mountains and river I had a thought. I am just like that tree that stands before me. I am like a big old Alder tree with many far reaching branches covered in leaves of green. I am deeply rooted and have been here for many years. I am surrounded by others, some friends, some family and others colleagues or acquaintances. We all stand here together. We are all the same in a way.

We may look slightly different. Some have more branches, some less, some bright leaves and…


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I’ve been doing a lot of thinking as of late and a lot of searching. Searching for what life is really all about. Why am I here on this planet right now, what do I want in my life, you know all the heavy stuff we rarely make time to think about. While I have been doing this introspection I have also been reading a lot, listening to podcasts and taking courses in mindfulness and the Dharma. I have this sort of insatiable hunger to learn, to seek, to find. It’s like I just can’t get enough of it. Each…


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Growing up in a place like Whitefish, Montana was not only wild, crazy and fun it was also touchingly beautiful and magnificent. I didn’t quite have the capacity to truly understand its beauty at the age of 8 years old but rather it was something that developed and flourished inside of me as I grew older.

I had a privileged upbringing. I am white, I come from a middle class family and my father worked hard to provide everything we could ever want and then some. We had a house on Whitefish lake and were only about 20 minutes from…


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I was lucky enough to grow up in a small town by the name of Whitefish, Montana. It was a magical place filled with such beauty and awe. It was a very formative time in my life and was filled with the most special friends who helped to influence who I am today. Don’t get me wrong, there were difficult times as well during these years, but the amount of awesome heavily out-weighed the negative.

We moved to Whitefish when I was 8 years old from Calgary, Alberta. I was born in Canada, but my father was the CEO of…


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I never realized, until recently, that an eating disorder is simply a coping mechanism for another underlying issue. I thought the eating disorder was the issue itself. Turns out I was wrong.

I remember first thinking that I needed to be on a diet at 11 years old. My mum was always on a diet, talking about diets or what she was eating. There was talk about diets and women’s body shape all over publications, TV, billboards pretty much everywhere you looked in the 1980’s. Fat will kill you, low calorie no fat is where its at! From all of…


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I am coming to realize that my kids are actually smarter than I am. Perhaps not in all of the worldly matters that you learn over the years but rather just the presence of being in this very moment.

I have a son who is 12 and a daughter who is 9. They are so alive every single day. They focus on the moment. They are having fun, feeling mad or sad, being incredibly silly or touchingly sweet. These emotions can change quickly and be very powerful. They absolutely feel what they feel, at every moment. Perhaps what they don’t…


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Pause and reflect are not two states of mind that come very easily to me. If anyone is familiar with the Enneagram, I am a type eight or what is called “The Challenger”. I have a very hard time sitting still. I am driven and am constantly wanting to do, do, do. I have been known to drive my husband crazy with my inability to just sit down during the day and take a break. My mind is constantly running in overdrive thinking about what is the next thing on my list. …


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It is meant to be one of the happiest times of your life, when you create a life within you. You feel more love than you ever thought humanly possible for this tiny human who rests so delicately in your care. It certainly started that way for me, although it was also very overwhelming at times. I of course had no idea that six months into this new dreamlike reality I would completely lose myself, my mind and any hope for the future.

My son, Jack, was born in June 2008. I remember that night so very well. My mum…


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We have been doing a thing at work where teammates take turns to talk about “what inspires me”. I lay in bed this morning thinking about this. To give this some context, it’s a Saturday and I was wide awake at 6 am writing this in my head. This no drinking and spiritual awakening stuff is either really good for productivity or really annoying due to the inability to turn my brain off at these most inopportune times!

Something my father taught us all is what has inspired me so much throughout my life and I’m only just coming to…

Katie Farmer

Daughter, Wife, Mother, Sister, friend, nature enthusiast, Dharma seeker, animal lover.

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